Jeremiah 29:11: For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future."

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Terrific Tuesday with Helen from Mother Always (Being Me)

Today's Terrific Tuesday guest is Helen who writes at Mothers Always (Being Me). Helen is a working mother of three. One of the things I've come to appreciate about Helen is that she doesn't have an authoritative voice that presumes to have all the answers; instead she's a fellow journeyer who shares about her challenges, and what she's learning, along the way.

Here's one of my favorite posts from Mothers Always (Being Me):

A Day in the life ..child vs me vs petulance

I always have to give in!

On Sunday, my youngest was acting up because of his father's advise.
A couple hours later, he was sitting quietly doing a maze puzzle, so I thought I'd broach the topic. I didn't ask him a question, I wanted to talk to him and suggest something but he just refused to hear or let me proceed.

My son took out his grouchiness on me because he could. I thought to myself, I don't deserve this. 'Fine' I said to him, 'you don’t want to talk to me, I won’t talk to you.'

I decided I wanted to be petty.

A couple of hours later I came back from the supermarket, I bought him lozenges for his throat and passed them to him, he asked what flavour and for about 40sec he talked to me about flavours before I remembered ‘hey I’m not supposed to talk to you and you don’t want to talk to me remember?’ He said ‘But I want to talk to you’.
I said ‘No, it can't work that way’ but he insisted laughingly, so ok ... thought I, let’s try the same topic.

So, it appears that at the time, he was still choking on the advise his father gave him and just did not want to hear me. So the lesson.. don’t get to the touchy subject immediately, work around it, assess child’s mood then get to it.

So I always have to give in, sigh.. some days are tougher than others.

4 comments:

Denise said...

Enjoyed this.

A Mother Always said...

Thank you for understanding..

BM

Deborah Ann said...

It can be quite the rollercoaster ride raising children, lol!

RCUBEs said...

Glad that you kept your cool, too...Kids...they just know how to get to us :) Blessings to you both.

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